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Many years ago, I left a job in which I was absolutely miserable. I was
dissatisfied with my manager, the culture of my department, and had a laundry
list of instances where I felt I had been treated unfairly. I left feeling
battered, insecure, and questioning of my own skills, all the while sure that a
move to a new organization would enable me to overcome such a "bad" experience
and find a place to be appreciated.
I excitedly changed jobs and, though the company was new to me, my attitude
wasn't. I took with me the insecurity and questioning of self which left me so
debilitated that my performance suffered greatly.
I wish I could say that I learned from that experience, but I instead left yet
again, this time seeking a position within a younger, more progressive
organization who would certainly lift me up and encourage me. It didn't. Within
two years time, I fled from the organization feeling more wounded and helpless
than ever.
By now, perhaps, you being wiser than I was then, are clearly seeing my pattern.
I kept bringing the same "me" to each situation; I was being fearful and
insecure and believed that a change in job circumstance would change that within
me. In other words, I was believed if I could have a new job, I could then do
greater things, and I would finally be recognized and fulfilled!
In Conversations with God, Neale Donald Walsch scripts his own dialogue
with God which reveals to him, that "in life, you do not have to do anything.
It's all a question of what you are being." He continues, "First you 'be' the
thing called 'happy' (or 'knowing,' or 'wise,' or 'compassionate,' or whatever),
then you start 'doing' things from this place of beingness – and soon you
discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always
wanted to 'have.'"
"The way to set this creative process (and that's what this is...the process of
creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to 'have,' ask yourself
what you think you would 'be' if you 'had' that, then go right straight to
being. In this way you reverse the way you've been using the Be-Do-Have paradigm
-- in actuality, set it right – and work with, rather than against, the
creative power of the universe."
What I wanted to have was a role, such as that of a consultant, who could be
disconnected from the politics of an organization in a way that allows a freedom
to speak with candor, making observations and suggestions without significant
repercussions. What I wanted to be was confident, self-assured, bold, even
risky.
And so, I spent a number of years shifting my focus from the having to the
being-doing. I set about practicing the behaviors that I imagined would be
possible with such beliefs about myself. I embraced having the freedom to speak
my mind, proposing ideas despite potential opposition, making bold requests, and
asking powerful questions. In the process of doing, I was blessed to find myself
becoming a new being.
Today, I take on a number of roles in my life that would not have been possible
without the Be-Do mind shift. One of them is even doing some work with a former
employer. As the "new me" has been so engaged, I've found Wayne Dyer's assertion
to be true: "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at
change." In the same space, with many of the same people and much of the same
culture, I am having a completely different experience. And, they are having a
completely different experience of me.
Coaching Inquiries: Who do you want to be? What are you doing that sows and fertilizes
who you want to be? What are the patterns of being that have kept you stuck?
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May you be filled with goodness, peace, and joy.
Erika Jackson
(Erika@LifeTrekCoaching.com)
LifeTrek Coaching International
Columbus, OH •
U.S.A.
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